humblydemure

What does it mean to be virtuous? The ideal woman is not rich (except in faith, hope, and charity) or famous (even the Virgin Mary lived a hidden life on Earth.) The virtuous woman is a lady, a lady who is humble, modest, kind, and patient. She does not show too much skin or brag about her accomplishments. She also does not lie. The virtuous woman is concerned with the welfare of others before herself, and God before anyone. She is also chaste, and saves herself for her future husband. She never cheats on him. She keeps her thoughts pure and feeds her mind and soul with good books and the Bible. She also takes care of her body, since it is the temple of the Holy Spirit.

Also, the virtuous woman dresses in proper clothes for the occasion. She never leaves the house in sweatpants, but dresses as one who respects herself. She does this while remaining humble and modest, never being vain.

For more information on the virtuous woman, read Proverbs 31 in the Bible. Also there are some great books at Christian bookstores explaining virtuous living, as well as some terrific blogs. And remember, being virtuous is not a hat that you take on and off, but a lifestyle that is to be consistently lived. You will not be able to be all these things in one day, but you will get better as time passes and you learn. Virtuous living takes time and diligence. I will be praying for you all. God bless, lovelies. ❤️

Hi there. Welcome to my blog. I hope I am able to inspire you to be better than you are, wherever you are in life.

Today I had work, came home and changed into something comfy. I ate an early dinner and plan on sitting down with a cup of tea and my kindle. Or a library book. I haven’t decided what to read yet.

I have tomorrow off, and hope to spend it productively. I am happy to say how well I am doing.

Share your thoughts on how you spend your time. Have a blessed day.

Everyone dreams. Everyone desires and deserves to be more than they are. I want to be a bestselling novelist. And I want more lovelies reading and liking this blog (hint, hint.) I want to marry wisely and well, and I want to see the world and make a difference for the unfortunate. I want, I want, I want.

But how to get it? How to get to where I want to be?

I’m sure you have asked yourself these questions too: what do you want, why don’t I have it, how do I make this happen… and you come up with nothing. I get it. I am trying to work my way out of a rut too. I dislike my position in society and always being strapped for cash. I dislike being at the mercy of richer, more powerful people. Why should I have less? I shouldn’t be poor, and neither should you. We should all have the lives we want.

There are some techniques I am trying that I would recommend to anyone just starting out on a path to bettering yourself. One that I am trying that sounds totally dopey but is slowly changing my mindset is gratitude. It will make you see abundance where you saw poverty and want. I keep reading from yogis, sages and self-help gurus that God mirrors back to us what we think we have. So if you convince yourself you are rich and successful, you ultimately will be.

Another idea I have come across is affirmations. This works with the mirror concept. Tell yourself you are succeeding and you will. Tell yourself you are beautiful and you will be. Tell yourself anything, as long as you want it to be true. Worrying damages your reality in ways you don’t realize. It is literally praying for what you don’t want. Instead, dream and dream big. Anything is possible.

Something I am getting ready to do soon is create a vision board. I am looking forward to being able to see my dreams. To create a vision board, just arrange a series of pictures on a piece of poster board that speak to you and remind you of your dreams. Place the completed board on a wall in a room where you will see it often. Let it inspire and motivate you.

I encourage all of you to keep chasing your dreams and I apologize if this blog so far has encouraged you to be complacent. Good luck winning at life, lovelies.

Hi lovelies. As I am sure many of you know, I have been under a lot of pressure lately. My hyper religious roommate has stopped permitting me to do yoga in the living room in the morning (someone told her I was bringing in spirits which is not true and now she is all paranoid) and my zen is all off as a result. I just got finished renewing my benefits and nearly lost some of them because I make money at work. Fortunately I still qualify. And my roommate also flooded her bathroom and caused the living room carpet to get wet as a result. Now there are industrial fans and dehumidifiers in the middle of the living room. It is a disaster.

So I am taking some time out. I am at Starbucks typing this on my phone, venting to all you wonderful, patient lovelies about my problems. I have my doodle book, my kindle paperwhite and a cup of coffee to calm me down. And I intend to stay here for a while. Thanks for listening.

Hi there. Okay, I know many people have roommates and family members living with them, and I know from experience how hard it is to have peace and quiet when there is turmoil at home. It is hard to work on your elegant self when your relatives or friends are experiencing drama. But how to make the drama less about you? How to separate yourself from them?

There is no easy answer to this. Every case is different, and some are more trying than others. Right now I am experiencing roommate difficulties too. My roommate is, unfortunately, in deep denial about her mental illness and is having family issues too. Not to mention a recent maintenance emergency (that she caused.) But there are ways to cope. I am going to share with you the techniques that help me cope.

• Go for a walk. Your roommate can’t follow you everywhere, and a scenic walk outside does wonders for your stress level and your waistline. Give it a try.
• Shut yourself in your room for an hour and do some bed yoga. There are some wonderful tutorials on YouTube.
• Journal about your stress. Take a blank book, go to Starbucks or any local coffee shop and write until you feel better.
• Pray. Any belief system applies here. Whether you share my Christian faith or worship a different deity, prayer is both soothing and effective.
• Meditate. Find a quiet space, set a timer for 5-10 minutes, and watch your breath as it goes in and out. Count to four in, then count to four out. Trust me. It works.
• Turn on some music to drown her out. Anything from Metallica to Mozart works.

I hope these suggestions are helpful. So far, these things have been working, but I would welcome gratefully any more ideas. Let me know what you come up with. Thanks for reading, lovelies. Have a blessed day.

We all make mistakes. All of us. You, me, your friends, your priest and the president too (that one was obvious. Of course the president is full of mistakes.) The part of this that makes our character, though, is how we respond when we are called out.

The best thing to do when you make a mistake is to be honest. Do not lie or make excuses to cover yourself, or you will look like a fool. If you make a mistake, own it, accept responsibility, and apologize to anyone who has been hurt or even inconvenienced by your mistake.

Learning from your mistake is important too. Look at your mistake, understand why it happened, and take steps not to let it happen again in the future.

And that is how to elegantly handle a mistake. Hope this helps.

So you have been busy with work, appointments and friends, and you are now given a treat: a weekend or longer with no obligations, duties, or any plans whatsoever. What to do with this awesome gift?

I always believe things happen for a reason, even a detail as minute as a free weekend. I like to use this God-given gift wisely, as our time is so short in this world that it is senseless to waste it.

So how to have a productive day off?

Well, I myself keep a daily planner, in which I put my daily and weekly to-dos. This practice continues on days off, too. A sample of my to do list might look like this:

Yoga

Blogging

Go for a run

Say my rosary

Grocery store

Laundry

You get the idea. Nothing stressful, still relaxing, and yet I am getting so much done on my days off.

I recommend using a lovely paper planner with colorful pages to make it fun. Mine comes with stickers and spare pages in it for notes. You can find really cute ones at any craft store or even at Target or Walmart.

Also, you can use your down time to work on a beloved project or hobby. I myself like to improve my poetry on these days as well. Try knitting, writing a novel, memorizing verse or photography as ideas to start with.

What do you like to do with your time off? Let me know in the comments below. I would love to hear from you. Enjoy your day off, lovelies!!!

It is common to make a resolution to read more, and to then fail at your goal because the task is too daunting. How to make the desire to read more a reality?

Well, first I would say read what you like. If you are a fan of romantic poetry, you will never finish a 700 page book on statistical thermodynamics. It just won’t happen. Read what you love.

Also, I say set a timer. If you set aside 20 to 30 minutes per book instead of setting a goal to read, say, three chapters, your reading habit will feel much easier to maintain.

Third, read more than one book at a time. If I, for instance, didn’t feel like reading my Northanger Horrid collection, I could always spend 20 minutes learning about the ancient Maya. I actually am setting time aside to do that today!

Also I would recommend renaming your reading practice. If you don’t like calling your 20 minutes of reading reading a book on Tudor history, you can always just call it “becoming an expert.” That to some people is more appealing.

I hope this advice is helpful. If you have any feedback for me leave it in the comments below. I hope you lovelies have a great time indulging in more books. Good luck! ❤️

Today is a slow day; I have had the last few days off. I work tomorrow and plan on going to church then too. I just got off the phone with my boyfriend and decided I would check in here.

I have not been hearing from my worker, and this causes me some anxiety. I hope everything is okay. I prayed the chaplet of Divine Mercy at 3:00 today which always makes me feel better. Trust in the Lord never steers you wrong.

My mom’s chickens got massacred. A fox came and killed a whole bunch of them and now they only have three left. And one of those three is missing some feathers. ☹️

I have a meeting with the respect life committee at church on Tuesday and I am going to talk to my friend on the committee to see if I need to do anything in preparation.

Thanks for letting me spin my wheels. Have a great day, lovelies. ❤️

Hello there! I wanted to say hi and check in. I wasn’t able to sleep much last night, but I am having an uncommonly productive morning. I am off from work today, and am doing dishes, laundry and the like. My roommate is already out for her morning coffee. So we are rising early this morning! I have a meeting later today and plan on making that productive too.

What else? Well, I began a novena this morning, asking St Joseph to help me with my renewal paperwork. He has never failed me before. I also said my rosary. I plan on praying a divine mercy at 3:00 today, since Jesus asked us to pray at that hour.

It is promising to be a sunny day. I think when my laundry is done I will go for a walk. I hope you lovelies have a blessed day. 😁